ACCOMPAGNEMENTS FORMATIFS POUR LES ÉQUIPES DU SECTEUR PUBLIC
Cost Per Notch Redux
What Every Girl Should Know
What Every Girl Should Know
Setting Boundaries With Your Partner
Managing Stress at the End of a Relationship
Valentine’s Day: A Date Which Will Live In Infamy
The Importance of Trust in a Family
Let Go of Your Past to Heat Up Your Present Relationship
The Hottest Kiss in the History of Earth
It’s a Fling Thing
Looking for Love This Summer?
Morpheus,
I left a comment at Katz’s blog. I am not sure if it posted or not. Here’s the cross-post.
The topic, of course, is whether courting even works…
We got a commenter in his mid 20s, brilliant guy, recently married, and he often shares stories about his buddies who are your basic good decent guys. They do the traditional courting and bascially don’t land dates 2 or 3. What you are NOT understanding or perhaps don’t want to admit, is if you cannot generate attraction, chemistry, tingles, then courtship is worthless. And if you can do those things, you don’t need to court, you’ll have plenty of takers minus the courting. That is just the flat out market reality, fair or not fair.
Truth. Again, just to reiterate: if you can’t generate chemistry, then courtship is a waste of time. If you can generate chemistry, then courtship is also a waste of time (because most women will not demand courtship, and if they did you would not need to lecture your readers to demand it).
Purely my own Anecdata, of course. Your experience may be different, particularly using online dating. I had some friends who used online dating, and also offered various dates that they paid, stupidly relying on the dinner date (rather than something more fun).
They do not, however, have your writing ability or seemingly reflexive empathy and mirroring. One is a smart architect, but is so stiff that he can’t even relax fully around ME, and both my Wife and I generally feel drained after spending time with him, not excited…I imagine the girls felt worse, which is why he went on a number of first dates, and almost no second dates.
What Every Girl Should Know
What Every Girl Should Know
Setting Boundaries With Your Partner
Managing Stress at the End of a Relationship
Valentine’s Day: A Date Which Will Live In Infamy
The Importance of Trust in a Family
Let Go of Your Past to Heat Up Your Present Relationship
The Hottest Kiss in the History of Earth
It’s a Fling Thing
Looking for Love This Summer?
Morpheus,
I left a comment at Katz’s blog. I am not sure if it posted or not. Here’s the cross-post.
The topic, of course, is whether courting even works…
We got a commenter in his mid 20s, brilliant guy, recently married, and he often shares stories about his buddies who are your basic good decent guys. They do the traditional courting and bascially don’t land dates 2 or 3. What you are NOT understanding or perhaps don’t want to admit, is if you cannot generate attraction, chemistry, tingles, then courtship is worthless. And if you can do those things, you don’t need to court, you’ll have plenty of takers minus the courting. That is just the flat out market reality, fair or not fair.
Truth. Again, just to reiterate: if you can’t generate chemistry, then courtship is a waste of time. If you can generate chemistry, then courtship is also a waste of time (because most women will not demand courtship, and if they did you would not need to lecture your readers to demand it).
Purely my own Anecdata, of course. Your experience may be different, particularly using online dating. I had some friends who used online dating, and also offered various dates that they paid, stupidly relying on the dinner date (rather than something more fun).
They do not, however, have your writing ability or seemingly reflexive empathy and mirroring. One is a smart architect, but is so stiff that he can’t even relax fully around ME, and both my Wife and I generally feel drained after spending time with him, not excited…I imagine the girls felt worse, which is why he went on a number of first dates, and almost no second dates.